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Should I show my husband the list that I made on reasons to stay and reasons to leave?

I was told by several people to do this and if the bad out weighed the good then I had my answer, but should I show him the list? He already knows many of the reasons but he takes me possibly filing for legal separation as a big joke and I was wondering if the list would prove anything before I actually take that step.

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1. Just go ahead and file. His reaction proves he has no respect for you.
2. There's really no point. A list of bad things he does certainly isn't going to make him love you again, and there's no reason to make him angry with you. Just get a divorce and keep it mature.
3. No I don't think so. Have you talked about your feelings with each other? Keep the lines of communication open. Talk about it even if you know it hurts or think it will. Remember not to yell because then it will make matters worse and nobody will listen.
4. He takes it as a big joke? that means he is not taking your feelings seriously and that you couldn't live without him. Be firm with what you have decided. If I were you I'd dump him, he seems so full of himself.
5. No, the good outweighing the bad is NOT a reason to say with someone. The bad being resolved or compromised is a reason to stay with someone. If he isn't willing to take part in making it work, then you have nothing, there. Find someone who can give you what you want/need, don't stay with someone 'cause it's a big hassle getting divorced.
6. just sit down with him and tell him look this is how i feel and no u dont have to have a list of any kind .I will tell you what bothers me a lil someone named smiley left a comment on ur question .Look at the ? she put up about her and her bf and baby very sad case..ok back to ur question if he dose not want to listen say good bye
7. Dear girl..no "list" is going to change things at this point. The reason you want to present him with one is you are still hoping he will somehow change his behaviour...he won`t. The best thing to do is really face the reality of the situation. You are obviously very unhappy..he already knows this and the reasons why,yet he has chosen not to do anything about it. That is not going to change,and. the question then is do you want to keep living with him the way things are? Do ask yourself this question.If the answer is no,then change your life. It isn`t always easy to take that first step, but when you have really made up your mind,it makes all the difference.. Go forward with your life and,be your own girl. I wish you happiness
8. yes, absolutely. let's face it... guys arent exactly the best at feelings and emotions. they're more concrete. showing him a list, something real and concrete may just help with that and make him think. u won't lose out on anything if u do. if he sees it as a joke then fine. at least u had a legitimate reason and had it all written down. if he can't understand the concrete... then ur better off without him.
9. The 'several people' you know are bitches. Do what they say if you want to be a bitch. You can opt not to be and instead honestly assert you own genuine bottom-lines for maintaining a relationship.
10. Go ahead, but be prepared for his to come back with a list of his own... and his list won't be thought out, so it may be painful.
11. Yes, show him the big phat divorce payout is looking juicier with every day to you.